It is really important to encourage your child to do more for themselves, even though in most cases it is easier to do it yourself.
Ways to help:
Accept some behaviour - defiance and disobedience, or refusing to comply with your requests, are essential parts of your toddler's growth into an individual try to accept some of their behaviour and respect that in some case they can decide for themselves.Try to avoid barking orders and ultimatums - lead and teach rather than getting into power struggles, a child is much more likely to react in the wrong way if you speak to them in a forceful or aggressive way. Use distraction - you may find it impossible to get your toddler to follow orders without upset. It's much smarter to use diversion tactics or allow them to make choices and offer them some control over their decisions.
It is just part of life with a toddler and you have to accept the fact that a lot of the time, your toddler will just do the opposite of what you want. They may also seem to resent almost any form of control by you. They will wants to get dressed by himself and feed himself etc. take heart all of this is totally normal.
